Random Thoughts #6: People Watching

Maybe there should be some sort of study done on reality TV viewers. 

I often experience a sense of enlightening while I'm vegging out in front of the TV.  Last night was just the same.  I leave my remote control parked on VH1 on Mondays.  First--Basketball Wives.  Second--T.I.'s Family Hustle.  Third--Chrissy & Mr. Jones.  The phone goes unanswered during reality TV.  The dog has to wait for commercial potty breaks.  I just can't miss it!  Not one ounce of a second of the drama.  And Monday's are not all that I've noticed. 

On random days, I will flip through the channels, stopping at ANY reality TV show!  It appeases me!  Comforts me!  Reality television, essentially, is my source for procrastination.  So, in coming to this realization, I started to wonder.  Is reality TV a hindrance?  The fact that I push other tasks to the backburner while watching it might be an explanation.  But that's not enough.  I'm going to go deeper than that.  Has it hindered me in a way that I can no longer intelligently communicate with people.  It's almost like how modern technology (text messaging, emails, Skype, etc) has replaced face-to-face communication.  Does reality TV suck the conversation right out of you?!  For example, let's say that I have a phone or face-to-face conversation with someone of the opposite sex.  I worry that we may have that awkward silence and it'd be all my fault.  Because I've taken up so much time watching reality TV that I have no idea about current events in my community or worldwide--or I have no solid stance on politics--or i know nothing about what else I like to do!  I fear that I lack depth or originality--that I'm not interesting enough. 

But, then again, I could combat those feelings by saying that I've always loved reality.  I'm an avid reader of memoirs.  I'm currently writing my own memoir.  I love to watch people's facial expressions.  And even though I may not always take heed to tell-tell signs, I learn a lot by watching people's body language.  I care about people's thoughts.  Feelings.  Opinions.  So, that explains why I have an extreme interest in reality television.  You learn a lot by people watching. And I think that, in itself, it a wonderful way to connect with people!

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Random Thoughts #5- Objects in Mirror Are Closer Than They Appear

Last night, I tuned into a tv show called, My 600-lb Life.  On the show, a morbidly obese women underwent gastric bypass surgery and lost almost 500 lbs.  Amazing right!?  That's equivalent to 2 or 3 people!  Anyway, what I found interesting was when the woman and her husband spoke of her 'fat mentality.'  Basically, this is when you still have the mentality of an overweight person--turning sideways to walk though doors--rocking from side-to-side while walking--seeing 600 lbs on a 200-lb frame.  The fact is, we live with ourselves everyday. We don't see our changes even though other people can.  The change within you may happen so teeny-tiny that we don't notice it.  It's gradual.  Whether a physical or mental change, it's important to understand that you are not the person you were yesterday. 

I forget that sometimes. 

I see my job that pays the bills but leaves me little play money and I wonder why I don't have a better career.  But, then I rewind back to 10 years ago, I recall NOT paying those essential bills (rent, car note, insurance, etc) on time--putting them off for partying and etc.  Not knowing how to budget.  Not knowing how to save.  Not understanding how a person can purchase a pair of shoes over $100 and still be able to live normally.

I see my appearance and I pick at what I want to improve.  Disliking those extra curves--those rolls that popped up out of nowhere.  But then, I take my fingers and run them through my moderately-lengthed curly hair--curly hair that's full and natural.  Curls that require only 5 minutes prep time that I didn't know I had because I straightened it since as far back as I can remember.  I notice that I go without make-up without a second thought. I grab trash bags and stuff old slutty clothing into them to give away because, for some reason, they don't appeal to me anymore.  And I remember 10 years ago--when I wore a beautiful short, chic hairstyle that I straightened with du-rags and pulled so tightly on my head that they left forehead lines.  I remember my fingertips becoming accustomed to daily burns as I sizzled my hair straight.  Standing in front of the mirror until my arm numbed from being raised too long.  Pursing my lips as I pulled each individual curl into perfect unison, perfect design.  Until the curls lay with perfect precision atop my head.  An OCD of a hairstyle.  I remember standing in front of that mirror for hours--a day-long process.  And I remember how I had to appeal to others at all times. Never leave the house without make-up.  And I remember dressing to go out--how short or revealing or tight my outfit needed to be.

I see my dating situation and how I'm still single and have no children.  And how that disturbs me to NO END but then again, I can see better.  I can see what men represent just by conversation.  I don't create illusions.  I believe what they show me and, in doing that, I find my courtships short-lived.  I have greater standards, so the options are fewer.  Swag is not the only requirement for me.  And I'm thankful for that because I remember 10 years ago, when I judged men by attraction only.  When conversation and commitment didn't matter--only attention did.  When that attention could fill up an address book with numbers.  Numbers that represented only momentary attention for a lonely person.  Negative attention.  Maybe positive attention.  It didn't matter.

So, this is how I define growth.  When you start to criticize yourself--your drawbacks.  What you could've done differently. What you didn't do at all.  What you did too much of.  Growth is when you take ALL of that negative energy and see something.  That something that you never thought of as growth initially.  Something that's--maybe--different.  A difference in you that makes you think--makes you reflect.  And you think about 10 years ago.  What was the 'you' 10 years ago like?  And in that very moment, you will know that life changes you the more you live it.  And that change is better than you give yourself credit for.

Random Thoughts # 4: Fallacy vs. Reality

    Today's subject is about 'soulmates.'  I've always believed that everyone has a person created specifically for them.  However, the question is, how do you know when you've met that person?  I mean, there's so many people in this world! What are the odds that with all these people, you are guaranteed that you're soulmate is somewhere near?  I find that people fall in love (or fall in extreme like) and toss that 'soulmate' label around.  The idea is that if you have such extreme feelings for someone--you have sooo many things in common--that this person MUST be your soulmate. 
     I've been a victim of that fallacy.  I met someone once.  We had so many things in common.  We finished each other's sentences.  We like the same foods.  Enjoyed the same music.  It was like my heart beat in a natural and synced rhythm as his.  I had it bad.  Unfortunately, we had a LOT of problems.  Infidelity.  Lies.  Confusion.  Financial issues.  Control issues.  The list goes on and on. Yet, despite the fact the the issues outweighed the good, I still felt that he was my 'soulmate.'  Eventually and inevitably, we parted. 
     Now, 5 or 6 years have past and I was still stuck with the idea that my soulmate had slipped through my fingers.  Of course, the next fallacy would be that you only get one soulmate.  If you miss each other, you just miss each other.  So, any future relationships are just in vain.  So, in my mind, I conjured up the idea that I would wait.  Wait until he settled.  Wait until he realized that I was his soulmate--that we were destined to be together.  I just waited.  Sabotaged any new courtships that I've had for the past 5 or 6 years because I had to be available when he returned.  I just waited.  Dated people that were unavailable physically, emotionally and mentally because I had to be available when he returned. 
     I made the decision to change myself.  Make some improvements so that when he came back, I would knock his socks off from the new Tara!  So he would know that I was 'da bomb' and wonder why he ever left to begin with!  See, the things you do for the sake of a 'soulmate' are endless.  And the things you will do when your mind conjures up this fallacy will amaze you.  I waited for 5 or 6 years without even knowing that I was doing it. 
     But, here's when I knew.  I found out that he'd gotten married yesterday.  He got married a year ago.  And I suddenly realized that my soulmate may have been someone else's soulmate.  Besides, I was the one that stamped that label on him.  I considered our past--our issues.  Understood that having a soulmate isn't forced, it just IS.  I appreciated the fact that since our previous relationship was forced, he must NOT have been my soulmate after all!  And that means, my soulmate is still out there.  I just wish that I would have had this epiphany 5 or 6 years ago.  Then, I wouldn't have start a healing process that should have been handled years ago and feel like it just ended yesterday. 
     Life is a journey.  You really need to be careful about the ideas that your thoughts create.  Be conscious about what's realistic and what isn't.  It might be years late but I'm glad it happened, nonetheless.

-Tara

Random Thoughts #3- Personal Exploration

Let me be completely transparent with you.  At one point and time, I was (what they call) a free spirit.  I went where ever the wind blew me.  If I never did it, my goal was to try it once.  I appreciated that lifestyle too.  I bragged about it--got off from the idea of shocking others. That's where my self-confidence came from. Either you got on board with it or I left you behind.  But, through experience, I learned that a person can live as a free spirit for so long before it catches up to them.  Bad decisions. Naivety. You find yourself backed into a wall, forced to change--forced to conform to the lifestyle of a regular person.  A person that thinks before they act.  A person that watches people's actions rather than listens to their words.  I decided to re-evaluate my friendships and realized that I'd been surrounded by people that embraced the old Tara.  They liked my excitement--the thrill they got from my spontaneous lifestyle.  I'd been oblivious to their using.  The one-sided friendships.  The mismatched friendships.  In a sense, I'd victimized myself for allowing this for soooo long.  So, I cleaned slate.  Deleted everyone from my life.  Breaking attachments from long-standing friendships are just as bad as intimate relationships, I tell ya!  It's been a year since I cleaned house and I still find myself picking up the phone with nobody to call just to tell someone about my day.  I could almost suffocate in my home because I've forced myself to be a homebody.  There's even times that I decide that reconnecting with past friends would be easier then this self-inflicted torture.  But, I always catch myself because it's better to move forward than live in the past.  I'm only fearing the future.  I'm only fearing myself.  And I'm getting to know Tara.  My likes.  My desires.  My pet peeves.  What makes me smile.  What I can do that entertains me.  How to make decisions based off of my well-being.  How to heal.  How to be smart.  It's a struggle but I love me enough to explore those things.

Random Thoughts #2: Wish

The other day, I took on the project of cleaning out the hall closet.  I came across my Senior Book from high school.  The Senior Book is just a memory book that forced me into a state of nostalgia.  When movie tickets were only $6.  2pac tossed it up.  Biggie was your poppa.  Croquet braids represented beauty.  And I predicted my future.  $100,000 per year.  2 kids: a boy and a girl.  Married.  Living somewhere tropical.  All of these things would be accomplished at the age of 27.  I can remember writing it--the enthusiasm--how sure I was.  I was so eager to grow up.  At 33, I find those preditions hilarious.  I question what the rush was.  How my idea of wisdom has been altered since I wrote in that Senior Book.  Now, I'm not saying that I'm a failure.  All I'm saying is that if I would have known then what I know now, I wouldn't have rushed it.  Every morning that the alarm clock beeps me out of slumber, I wish I was 17.  I wish my financial responsibilities involved just a pager bill and new outfit.  Wish I didn't know the definition of a budget. Wish I didn't have to make sacrifices for myself.  Wish I didn't have to prioritize.  Wish I could toss my planner out of the window and live on a whim.  But reality is reality.  Which is why I'm a writer because what I can't experience, I can write about.  And what I write about becomes my own reality.

Random Thoughts #1: Cuff

Last night I lay spread-eagled across my king-size bed.  We all toss in our sleep, I think, but a single person in a king-size bed defines the art of tossing.  I cuffed my body pillow under my leg, remembering the cuffing under a man.  I've come to see that in my 30s one of two things can be expected.  Either things happen or they don't.  People get married.  People have kids.  Careers take off.  That flashlight flicks on in your brain and realize that your old ways just don't suffice anymore.  You're wiser.  And for single women with no kids, that clock starts to tick. You want someone to cuff in slumber.  But, how laboring it is to find someone at this age?!  You're burned out on the club scene.  Plus, you've been told that a man at the club isn't the man you want.  You find yourself planted in front of the television knowing damn well that the man of your dreams isn't going to just walk through your door.  You consider online dating but after the man with the glass eye, the stalker and the pathological liar, you reconsider.  So you just pray and wait.  But, for now, here you are, tossing in your bed, cuffing that body pillow waiting for a warm body to cuff or, better yet, spoon.

Woman Lover

        Jordan texted to invite me to dinner.  She wanted to patch up what she’d ruined. But as I closed my eyes, I imagined a rocket blasting off—smoke gushing from its tail.  When the rocket disappeared, I watched the formation of the smoke.  It spelled you’re a woman lover.  I pressed the pillow over my head, attempting to squash the thoughts out of my mind.  You’re a woman lover.

            My grandmother asked me that.  Instead of a hey-baby-how-are-you, I got a hey-baby-you-a-woman-lover? Those words clamped down on my secrecy like forceps, piercing it wide open.  I despise rainbows because they follow rain.  I didn’t vote to legalize same-sex marriages because I didn’t care.  I just liked a girl. 

            I chalked it up as a phase. But, if a phase is revealed to the world it becomes a reality.  Jordan shaped that reality. During small talk, my grandmother asked her.  Jordan just blurted it out.  Painlessly.  Matter-of-factly.  After the ritualistic question my grandmother always asked me—baby, you got a boyfriend yet? She asked her. So, Jordan told.   Just used up all of her loyalty like the dried up wax of a burnt candle—and told her.

            Jordan perplexes me. Drives me into a dark room, lit by flashlights. We shadow-puppetted.  We wound our hands up in acrobatic shapes, giggling at the shadow moths we created.  Then, we interlaced our fingers to create an insanely, gigantic butterfly.  We flicked on the lights and flicked off the flashlights.  We practiced spiders and lizards and rabbit puppets.  We played house.  She the husband and I the wife.  We kissed like little bunnies.  Messy.  Experimental.  We were kids then. 

            Nobody knew about my secret but Jordan.  She cooked turkey necks and rice on the day I told her.  She slid a saucer across the table, inviting me to have some—when I told her.  She offered me a glass of cognac on the rocks when she studied the creases on my forehead.  I have a girlfriend, I said.  She’s cool—you should meet her.  No confusion.  No questions. No repulsion.   As long as you’re happy—she told me.

           

            I slipped on my black spaghetti-strapped dress and texted her yes.

Skunk Frisbee

            I hurled the skunk in the air and watched Fritz leap. Over the coffee table. Scooping the skunk up with his nose and gripping it in his mouth. The skunk squeaked. It had six squeaks when I bought it. Now—only four because he’d maneuvered two out. I bought the toy skunk with no stuffing for a reason.  In a matter of minutes, stuffed toys would transform my living room into clouds. I’d find myself on all fours, crawling around to pick it up while Fritz hopped on my back, pushing me, face first, into stuffing, claiming his authority since I’d stooped to his level. But not today. Today, I initiated a game of Skunk Frisbee.

            I tossed the skunk in the air and observed Fritz. He lost sight of the skunk and pranced in circles, searching. He found it in the corner and ran at full speed, bouncing off the corner of the couch, clinching it in his teeth. When I reached for it, he pulled away. A game of come-and-get-it. I leaned over, yanked it from his clinch and started the Skunk Frisbee all over.

            I pitched the skunk in the air, as Fritz snatched it up and ran back to me. I got a good grip on it, tugging. I tugged once and Fritz jerked his head from side-to-side. I tugged twice and he pushed his claws into my wrist. I lost my grip. He ran away at full speed through the house, hiding the skunk in the corner, barking that intruder bark. He growled to teach me a lesson and retrieved the skunk from the corner.

            When Fritz approached, I snatched the skunk and pretended to sling it in the air, tucking it behind my back. But, he caught on to my trick and dug his teeth into my arm. My shrieks scared him away. I motioned for him to come back. Then, snatched his paw and dug my teeth into it. He yelped and hid under the coffee table.

            Commercials flashed on the television. One, in particular, about animal brutality. I raked my eyes at Fritz, still whining—eyes hung low to the floor. Remembering when I’d eaten a hamburger after

The Boy Who Cried Ailment

            Google obliterated Stewart.  His work stacked on his desk, untouched, while he surfed a search engine, packed with answers and remedies and explanations. So, they told him that they no longer required his services and he left. 

            Stewart blamed the economy for the job market, entertaining his boredom with ailments.  When he awoke from awkwardly-positioned slumber, he convinced himself that his leg pain resulted from prolonged sitting in front of his computer.  Per Google, it’s a case of deep venous thrombosis and, if ignored, the blood clot would spread throughout his body, poisoning his system and killing him instantly.  He informed his roommate, Dave, about his upcoming demise.  Dave asked if he was kidding.

           

            The next day, while he and Dave puffed on a joint, Stewart noticed a cluster of tiny moles on his arm.  He retreated to the computer and checked with Google. It was Melanoma—the only explanation for nodding on the lawn chair in the 90-degree sun.  The computer screen sectioned off into dots—then, faded away.  Craig awoke to a paramedic hovering over his face, calling his name.  Dave’s voice echoed a dude-is-he-okay? in the background.  After testing his vitals, the paramedics deemed him healthy and left.  Dave asked if he was insane.

           

            The following day, Craig searched Google for remedies.  To get rid of the deep venous thrombosis and melanoma, so treacherous, so microscopic, that nobody could detect it.  Google directed him to a holistic healing camp called Blue Deer in New York—where he’d learn that the medicine of old culture could exert a powerful effect.  So, he packed his bags and left.

           

            Craig arrived back home 3 weeks later, refreshed, reinvigorated, full of life—convinced that he’d healed himself of his deadly ailments.   As he unpacked his bags, Dave joked about his camp, calling him Amish.   Craig dismissed his insult and went back to unpacking.  His arm tingled.  Chest pressure forced him to the floor.  Dave ran back into the room, finding Craig crouched down, holding his chest.  He shook his head and walked back into the living room.  When Dave didn’t hear him get back up, he decided to contact the paramedics.

           

            Craig lay in the hospital, attached to heart monitors.  His mother flew into town after hearing about the heart attack.  He told her that he’d been proactive about his health.  He wondered why Dave didn’t believe him and she simply told him that nobody believes a liar—even when he is telling the truth.

Untitled- Character Sketches

     Mary Ellen tugged at her shirt, perfectly aligning the bottom with her waistline and the waistline with pant line, carefully placing her necklace perpendicular to her belt.  She gazed at her mirror, laid precisely parallel to her face, checking the makeup she’d taken 30 minutes each morning to apply.  Always.  Foundation below the eyes.  Right cheek.  Left cheek.  Pale pink lipstick.  Blot it twice.  She frowned at her pale skin, a result of unsuccessful tanning, and noticed the crow’s feet that beamed from her eyes like sun rays in suffocating heat.  Her age showed.  And as much as she resisted her employer’s daily selection of danishes and scones and donuts and bagels---and jogged on treadmills until her vision exposed dot pixels, she couldn’t escape that fact that she was 40.  An astute 40 though.  With habits of uncontrollable slumber at 8pm daily.  Hurried like the Alice In Wonderland rabbit in times of punctuality. Everything always in order.  And precise.  And able to breath easily when things flowed just so.  And just like her parents who’d instilled in her essential advice during her adolescence.  “Stand up straight—2^nd place isn’t winning—If they’re not in our class, they aren’t worth your respect.”

    I watched Mary Ellen as her fidgeting became my fidget.  A bundle of nerves if you asked me.  A case of undiagnosed bipolarity.  *Being overwhelmed caused emotional panic.  Tears flowed like streams that ran into rivers into waves into tsunamis.  Her voice octave raised like a lucky poker hand.  I would count down 5-4-3-2-1 in anticipation of her childlike outbursts, tucking in my uneasy giggles.  She amused me.  Always, the same outfit every week as though the labels were marked as Monday, Tuesday and so forth.  Always hoarding information that she liked to dish out to colleagues who already knew the answers.  As though she was important.  I watched her once while we were locked in our suite.  A guy came in to ask directions.  No tie.  Just a t-shirt and jeans asking for innocent directions.  Her face shriveled to the bone as though her life had been sucked out of her.  “Well I never!  How did you get in anyway?”  He just walked away—no gun in sight.

Perfect Speciman

Elise inhaled the intoxicating scent of Aphrodisiac incense.  She tucked them into her clear plastic bag, counting 50 incense for $10.00.  Then, she tossed a few bottles of scented oils into her arm basket.  Aromas calmed her.  They nurtured her when she had no mate to fulfill the duty. 

            As she drew the nurturing into her nose, she imagined him.  He’d accept her past—even though she once confused love with intimacy.  He’d have 0 to 1 child because ‘baby mamas’ conflict with the connection—especially multiple ones.  He must have his own car because she refused to run a taxi service, better credit than she had, be sensitive enough to appreciate love stories but manly enough to put her in her place when needed. He must love the arts.  Admire a Monet and know who he was.  Know that Angelou coined the phenomenal woman.   Be faithful, obedient, god-fearing, supportive, open-minded, non-materialistic. 

            He had to make her laugh that tear-jerking laugh.  And never sleep on an unresolved argument. Recognize and utilize his gifts.  Have a desire to travel to foreign countries and speak their language,  jagged and broken, without being embarrassed.  Look past her morning breath and pillow lines when telling her how beautiful she is.  Hover above her at 6’0 or taller so that she’d have to tippytoe her affection.  Put her first—above his mother or his friends or video games.  Aspire for success and push toward it.  Be a looker that liked to look at her. 

            No exceptions.  No compromises. She pulled a 20 dollar bill from her wallet, paying for her momentary nurturing.  It would appease her until he arrived.  And if he never did, she’d forever intoxicate herself with the possibilities.

Untitled

Noel could still see the bright flicker of light outside of her closed eyelids.   She rolled over, pushing her body into the hidden crevice of the couch.  Just as she’d pulled the plush comforter above her head and nestled in the perfect position, the phone rattled.  Noel jerked out of comfort, yanking the covers to her waist.  Her cell lit up with Keith’s name, beating to his designated ringtone, Whitney Houston—I Will Always Love You.  She twirled her feet around to the floor and sat upright, running her fingers through her hair.  Any conversation with him, whether verbal or in-person, required her to look her best.

            Hoarsely, she answered. “H-hello?”

            “Hey you...”

            “Hey.”

            “You sleep?”

            “No, I was just nodding off.  What’s up?”

            “Can I see you?”

            “When?”

            “Now.”

            “I don’t know, Keith.  I have to be at the salon at 8am tomorrow.  I have an early appointment coming in.”

            “Suit yourself.”  He began to press end on his phone.

            “Hey WAIT!”

            “Yeah.”

            “I’ll be ready in 15 minutes.”

            Noel recalled the final warning that the salon owner had given her.  One more tardy meant forfeiture her job. But Keith was an exception.  She’d waited on him to call for 3 weeks and, now that he had, she wouldn’t pass on the opportunity.

            He arrived with alcohol in hand and they, promptly, toasted to their reconnection.  To life.  To prosperity. To whatever warranted another drink.

            She heard the vibration of a plane, so close, as though it prepared to land on her roof.  Airport only 2 miles away from her home.  She lifted her head from the couch, head beating, studying the two shot glasses—one cloudy with leftover lip gloss and the other cloudy with large fingerprints.  She pressed her cell phone and read.  10am.

Fruit Treat

                The keys jingled like bells in their ears. Like school bells prompting summer vacation. Like a hot summer day when children, tongues hanging feverishly out of their mouths, hear the ice cream truck.  Mindy and MonaLisa planted their butts on the carpet like statues, watching her leave. Side by side. She took another glance at them and bid them farewell. "See you later, sweeties! Be good while I'm gone!" Both heads hiked to the left in unison as though her language was theirs. A confusion of tongues yet understanding in tones. They watched as the handle of the door jerked around and the footsteps grew more distant.  MonaLisa dragged to the foot of the couch, head drooping as though her best friend had died.

            "What's your issue?"

            "She's always running away--leaving us all alone.  It's not fair!!"  MonaLisa lifted her head up, mouth arched open, howling in agony.

             Annoyed, Mindy scolded her. "Hush all that madness!  She can't hear you!"

             "Yeah she can.  I can hear other stuff outside so she can hear me. I know it!"  MonaLisa's tucked her face under the rug.

             "Stop being such a sap.  Stand up!"

            MonaLisa's legs wobbled, struggling to stiffen like liquid jello in the cold.  "It's nothin to do here."

            "You coulda fooled me!  Look around you! There's tons to do!"

            "But I don't wanna make her mad!"

             "Look at it like this, if she wanted to play with us, she wouldn't have ever left! How do you know she isn't out playing with some stray?!"

            Mindy made a point. No need in sulking.  "I get your drift."  MonaLisa shook off her sorrow and jetted away. Around the couch. Around the table. In the kitchen. And back. On the couch.

            "Hey--hey. MonaLisa."

            In the kitchen and back . In the hallway. And back.

            "MonaLisa. Hey, lemme tell you somethin. HEY! MonaLisa!"

            On the couch, scratching her name into the cushion. Maybe not clearly but, at least, trying.  Back around the table.  Back in the hall. 

              Mindy--Twirling in circles. Around and around. Eyes dizzy from following. "What the hell is wrong with you?  Sit down!"

                MonaLisa gasped with vacuum cleaner pressure.  Inward.  And outward.  "Whew, I feel better now!"

             "Somethin is really wrong with you. What was all that for?"

             "Just makin myself feel better."

              Mindy shook her head in shame.  "Well, I wanna play a game."

            "What kinda game."

               "It's called fruit treats."

             "Fruit treats?"

               Mindy's mouth salivated at the mere thought of the game.  Yesterday, while MonaLisa people watched out the window, missing all the action, she'd planted herself on the kitchen rug, watching it being pulled out of the oven. Peach cobbler,  piping hot. Juices running down the sides.  She'd been teased by the drop that hit the floor that she ran over to lap up.  Pure sugar on her tongue, running down her throat. She could still taste it.  Sucking on her teeth.  Now wrapped in aluminum foil, pushed back on the counter beyond reach.  She knew that her Chihuahua size and MonaLisa's Yorkie size deemed it impossible to get to it--but if they worked together--maybe---just maybe—they could get it--as long as she could keep MonaLisa's attention long enough. 

            "How do you play it?"

             "You see that chair over there?"

            MonaLisa walked over to the abandoned chair.  "This chair?”

             "Any chair, stupid!"

             "Don't call me stupid!"

              "Whatever!"

             "No whatever! Don't call me stupid or I won't play!"

             Frustrated, Mindy abided by her rule, praying that her sister, who was obviously one crayon short of a crayon box, could focus long enough to play the game.   "Okay I promise I won’t call you stupid anymore."

            "Never?"

            "Never."

            "Ever?"

            "Ever!"

            "Okay good.  What do I have to do?"

             Mindy tilted her head toward the chair near the patio door.  "Okay.  You push until your tired.  Then, I push until I'm tired--until we push all the way to the counter.  Then, you get on top of the chair.  And I get on top of the chair—on top of you and I can get on the counter!"

            MonaLisa walked over to the chair and pushed with her all of her 4 pound might.   "What's up there anyway?" 

            "A good fruit treat to eat."

             Between brief pushes, MonaLisa caught a peripheral glimpse of a bunny.  She pulled away from the chair that seemed to be pushing her more than she was pushing it.  She yelped at the glass screen, pushing with more effort than she did with her chair.  As if she could really scare it.

             Mindy shook her head and headed back into the living room, mumbling. "Stupid."

Driving Blind

My husband and I decided to drive to California for my best friend’s wedding.  We hadn’t taken a road trip in a while.  We live in Salt Lake City, Utah—about 12 or 13 hours away.  Five hours into our trip, we came to a fork in the highway, separating two highways.  I asked Stephen, “Do you have the MapQuest directions?”

            “What MapQuest directions?”

            “Hun, are you telling me that you forgot the directions?”

            “I didn’t need them.”

            Agitated, I inquired, “What do you mean you didn’t need them?”

            “I read them and it looked like a straight shot.  I figured that you could call Kate when we got there to get directions from the highway.”

            “Are you serious?”

            “Yeah, why do you ask that?”

            “Have you ever driven to California?”

            He glanced at me.  “No—but I HAVE taken a lot of road trips and once you’ve seen one highway, you’ve seen them all.”

            “Well—“  I hesitated.  “Alright then.”  (I removed three sentences because they were told in the dialogue.) I’m sure he wouldn’t travel this far without knowing where we’re going.

            He chose to curve left at the fork in the road.  I closed my eyes.  I awake to hear I listened to Aerosmith’s song, Cryin, for the third time. No telling how many times it played while I slept.  I asked Stephen, “Hun, where are we?”

            “We should be about two hours away.”

            “Well, have you seen any signs for California?”

            “Not yet.  But I think we are still too far to see signs yet.”

            “You sure about that?”

            “I know where I’m going.  Just trust me!”

            “I’m just trying to help.”

            I could sense the frustration in his voice.  “I don’t need any help.  I just said I know where I’m going.”

            “Well, alright then.”  I didn’t want to argue.  A wedding is not the place to have tension with your spouse.  Weddings wreak romanticism—something now limited in Stephen and I’s marriage.  Somehow, the romance rubs off on the guests.  I couldn’t chance that not happening.

            Thirty more minutes had past and we were coming up on a giant green sign.  I studied it to learn that it didn’t mention California at all.  “Hun, that sign doesn’t say California anywhere.  You sure you know where you’re going?”

            “I know where I’m going!”

            “Maybe we should stop and get directions.”

            “I don’t need directions.”

            “But we should see something by now.  Don’t you think?”

            “Can you let me drive please?”

            “I just thought that maybe we’d see a sign by now.”

            “Let’s just wait to see what the next sign says. Okay?”         

            “Well okay then.”

            Thirty more minutes had past.  I curved my body into the back seat, reaching for the blanket.  Stephen never turned the air conditioner off.  As I turned around, I caught a glimpse of the next sign as we jetted by.  “Stephen!”

            “What!”

            “Did you see that sign?”

            “What sign?”

            “It said Texas!”

            “Texas!”

            “Stephen, we’re going the wrong way!  Pull over!  We’re going the wrong way!”

            “Shit—I’ll get off at the next exit and ask for directions!”

                               

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During my ritualistic 3.5 mile hike, my dog, Ziggy, tugged at the leash, pulling until beads of sweat stained my forehead.  The calmness of the night offset the fear of the nearby woods.  Non-existent animalistic sounds.   It forced me to break out into a sprint to pass quickly.  “Come on, boy!  Let’s go. !”  Ziggy yanked at the leash.  An inopportune bathroom break.  After eyeing my surroundings, I kneeled down to tie my shoelaces.  Ziggy barked.  I lifted my head to scan my surroundings.  Nobody but the two of us and the tussle of the trees.  Maybe the racket of insects annoyed him.  He barked again.  This time, more aggressively.  Tugging at something that simply wasn’t there.  “Hush boy!  Shuush!”  I rubbed his head.  He whined.  The hairs on my arms stood up.  As I looked at the ground, I could see the shadow.  Rough fingers gripped my neck.  The leash slipped from my fingers.  Tribal branches tattooed my face as he dragged me into the woods.  2 hours.  Ripped clothing.  Nose and body  tainted with his scent.  Stubborn shoelaces that could’ve wait to be tied.  Violated. My tears moistened the dirt.

Ziggy planted himself on the curbside.  Determined.  Tail wagging at the approaching headlights.  He pulled over.  The man questioned, “Hey boy… all by yourself?”  Ziggy pulled at the leash, nose pushed to the ground as he directed him into the woods.

Dingy Socks

My husband urged me to clean his room but I couldn't.  I’d been fixated on repetition--one that left me confined and disobedient.  Many days, when my husband was away at work, I'd push through the door, tiptoeing over its contents, careful not to disturb a crumb or paper or a single dingy sock. 

            He never cleaned his room. I remember when I'd holler through his door as he drowned out the sound of my voice with guitars and commercials.  Clean your room, I’d say.  He'd turn down the volume on his radio, asking me to repeat and I'd say, "Clean your room. I'm checking it when you're done and you'd better not rake anything under the bed."  Then, after washing dishes and folding clothes, I'd march upstairs and inspect.  He'd sit on the edge of the bed, watching intently and nervously.  I'd give him a head nod in approval and he'd shoot me a fake smile like I’d interrupted his entire world with my inspection.  Then, as I edged my way to the door, I’d eye a single dingy sock peeking out from under his bed.  But, I pretended never to see.  Because it wasn't the single dingy sock that mattered; it was the respect that counted. 

            As I step over each sock, my heart grows heavier and my soul hiccups with the idea that I can't tell him to clean his room anymore.  His bed has a permanent indention where he once sat and I occupy his existence, watching his open closet with starched uniforms.  I would have never imagined the dingy socks would have reached such maturity. Each crease on his uniform stood at attention as though he'd incorporated ironing into his daily rituals—as though he'd finally learned not to just shove things under the bed. 

            I wondered if he followed directions there.  If he'd made a mistake that ended horribly. If my disregard for dingy socks under the bed made him think that half-ass was okay.  I never realized that one dingy sock meant disregarding a missile or cannon or an array of gunshots.  I should've been sterner.  More of a disciplinarian.   

            I picked up the sock from the floor, pressed it stiffly to my nose and tucked it into my pocket.  So far, I’d gathered nine single socks. I’d ironed them just to inhale the obscene scent that was all too familiar.   Then, I stored them away in my own personal shoebox along with his outdated letters about annoying bunk mates and foreign journeys and souvenirs.  I added it to my collection.