Soul-Endearing Communication Within A Relationship

It’s her birthday. He struts into the house with a huge box wrapped in colorful paper and adorned with a fluffy red bow. She doesn’t hesitate to tear away the disguise to reveal her surprise. After the first tear, she catches a glimpse of some type of technical device. She reasons to herself, “Boy, he’s so clever…hiding my shoes in this box!” She winks at him as she yanks away the last piece of tape. She reveals a new stereo system. Her smile disappears. Visibly more excited then she, he utters, “So what do you think? Do you like it?” She recalls their stroll through Wal-mart recently where he’d bounced like a candy-ridden kid, presenting that same stereo system to her….the stereo system that he wanted. What about all the hints she was throwing? Was he that clueless that everything she’d hinted about went directly over his head? Was he even listening? She’d been waiting on those shoes…already had a matching outfit draped across the guest room bed with the perfect accessories beside it! Angry, she stumped out of the room in tears as he trailed behind, saying, “What’d I do?”

He may have heard those hints being tossed around but, in actuality, he wasn’t listening. It’s all about the communication! Communication reigns as one of the top reasons relationships fail. St. Louis blogger, Gi Gi Hayden, gives a valid example of failed communication in her blog, Selective Hearing Means You Don’t Listen Anymore. She depicts a reasonable, un-nagging mate who never cried wolf yet when she needed his helping hand, he didn’t come running. He just wasn’t listening. Not just general talking to each other…I mean listening with arched ears to everything of importance to your mate, not just selective hearing. Not just brief stints of random communication either…I mean deep, soul-endearing conversations. St. Louis author and CEO of FaceRomance presents the step-by-step process of how to have engaging conversations. This sound advice serves as a remedy to selective hearing because the interest remains peaked.

Of course, we aren’t in a perfect world where fluent communication warrants full agreement at all times. There will be times of disagreement. The key to a healthy relationship is knowing how to battle those disparaging times…knowing how to have a fair argument. And don’t forget about that body language because crossed arms do not invite resolutions.