Parents Determining the Fate of Your Mate

The honeymoon stage is simply marvelous! It emulates the euphoric feeling of playing hopscotch on clouds. If public displays of affection (PDAs) were illegal, the both of you would be repeated felons. This state of mind presents the idea that your love is an untainted love….a love that conquers all. That is, until its time to meet the family. If you share a sincere love, not infatuation, for your mate, you genuinely seek acceptance from their family. The women might question, “What do I wear?” The men might question, “What will I say?” But, the ultimate question that rings clear to both sexes is, “Will my impression on them impact my relationship?”
One of the general get-to-know-you questions during the courting stage involves the family. How many siblings to you have? What about your parents? Are you close to your Mom and Dad? In fact, some people equate respect for parents to respect within a relationship. However, how close is too close? In the St. Louis Area, the Mama’s boy/Daddy’s girl syndrome is alive and well. It’s the kind of parent-child relationship that prohibits the child of living an adult life on their own terms. A situation wherein the parent disapproves of everyone and the child follows lead. Is it possible to loosen those strings a bit? According to Sigmund Freud, this circumstance might be more complex than you think.
A condition called the Jocasta complex suggests why Mommy will never accept you. The Jocasta complex involves an extreme admiration that a mother has for their child. In reference to the child, it involves the Oedipus or Electra complex. Simply put, the Oedipus complex is a mental condition that fixates the son on his mother and Electra complex fixates the daughter on her father. This condition tends to trigger itself during childhood but remnants of it remain present in adulthood. For example, the Oedipus adult may seek a mate that fits the characteristics of the parent they idolize. Of course, these conditions can pose detrimental stress to a relationship. So when your mate starts to imitate the childhood game of “Mother May I?,” evaluate the situation carefully. You may be in for more than you bargained for.